Do you find you and your partner repeatedly butting heads over issues that seem relatively insignificant on the surface? Do you tend to feel “dug in“ when you bring up a particular issue with your relationship partner? Do you find it hard to listen to what they’re saying, without thinking of a counter argument, or a counterpoint to what they’re saying? If you answer yes to any of these questions, then you’re probably stuck in a power struggle and would do well to continue reading.
Read moreAttunement is the Key to Online Therapy Working
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Are you skeptical about whether online therapy could be helpful for you? Do you think that meeting with a therapist online seems somehow fake? If you answered yes to either of these questions then today’s blog should be an excellent read for you.
Read moreHow to Distinguish Betrayal Trauma From Jealousy
Have you ever found yourself feeling jealous and obsessed over it? Have you ever felt so jealous you got angry and upset about it? Do you find yourself looking up someone you’re jealous of on social media to find out if they may pose a threat to your relationship? If you answered ‘yes’ to more than one of these questions you are most likely not suffering from trauma and would do well to read on.
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How Trauma and Addictive Behavior Behaviors Go Together
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Do you often wonder why you seem to get pulled into the net of addictive behaviors? Do you have a history of trauma and wonder why you keep making the same poor decisions over and over again? The explanation may lie in connecting your trauma to your compulsive actions, so please read on.
Read moreHow Couples Therapy Can Reduce Repeated Arguments
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Do you seem to keep having the same arguments with your partner, but just in a different form? Do you feel like you and your partner are stuck in a cycle of wash, rinse, and repeat with regard to your conflicts? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then you would definitely benefit from reading today’s offering.
Read moreAre You in 'The Window of Tolerance' with Trauma?
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Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed and panicky in relation to a traumatic experience you’ve had? Do you sometimes feel numb or emotionally shut down when you are reminded of a traumatic experience from the past? In either of these instances, you are out of your window of tolerance, and need to be able to get into it. So read on if you answered yes to either of these above.
Read moreHow Practical Neuroscience Can Aid In Relationship Communication
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Do you often wonder about why you and your partner have so much difficulty communicating? Do you feel frustrated and defeated because you and your partner just can’t seem to talk about anything of substance in the relationship? Do you often argue about things that seem relatively trivial? If you answered, yes to any of these questions, then I urge you to read all about what practical neuroscience has to say about what can help you in your partnership.
Read moreFinancial Infidelity: How To Spot It And What To Do About It
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Does your partner tend to make major financial decisions without consulting you? Have you walked away from asking questions about your family finances feeling bad about even asking in the first place? Have you caught your partner lying about expenditures they have made, and on multiple occasions? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions you may be dealing with financial infidelity, so please read on.
Read moreHow to Feel More Gratitude
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Do you struggle with feeling grateful despite trying to practice appreciation in your life? Do you sometimes envy others who seem to embody a spirit of thankfulness that you feel you lack? Have you given up on thankfulness altogether because it seems like it’s just a waste of time? Read on if you answered yes to any of the above questions, as this offering may help you have a breakthrough as it did for me.
Read moreWhy Relationship Check-ins Are Essential
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Do you feel a sense of persistent disconnection with your partner? Do you realize that there are numerous issues that you and your spouse need to address that you can’t seem to ever get around to? Do you and your partner have financial stress and strain that you can’t resolve together? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you need to read on to help your relationship.
Read moreHow Trauma Traps the Nervous System and Ways to Reset It
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Do you find yourself thinking about the same old negative crap day in and day out? Do you feel overtaken by feelings of dread, fear, or remorse? Do you wonder if you can ever break free from this vicious cycle you seem trapped in? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you may be trapped by trauma.
Read moreParenting Styles Can Help or Hinder Your Relationship
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Do you and your partner have opposite approaches to parenting your children? Do you find that you are harboring resentment towards how your partner treats your children differently from the way you do? Do you sometimes get into arguments about how you are parenting your children with your spouse? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then your parenting styles could be driving a wedge into your partnership.
Read moreHow Creative Hobbies Aid in Trauma Recovery
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Do you suffer from trauma and think of yourself as a non-artistic person? Do you keep getting caught in the same negative thought loops and struggle to break free from them? Do you suffer from intrusive thoughts and/or feelings and struggle to escape them? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then I urge you to read about some things you can do to help your overall situation.
Read more4 Tripwires for Infidelity
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Has your marriage or relationship recently experienced infidelity of some sort? Do you find yourself struggling to trust your partner no matter what they say? Are you tempted to stray and cheat on your partner because of current circumstances you find yourself in? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you very well may find something to help in this week's page on the topic.
Read moreDecision-making, Risk-taking, and the Trauma Twist
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Do you suffer from trauma and wonder why you do some of the things that you do? Do you feel like you are either inhibited from risk-taking, or completely given over to it? Do you feel like your decision-making is entirely out of habit or routine instead of the particular circumstances of the situation? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you are definitely having your choices affected by the trauma twist, so read on.
Read more4 Reasons Mankeeping is Bad for You
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Do you ever find yourself feeling tired from having to meet most or all of your male relationship partners' needs in the relationship? Do you feel like there is an imbalance as far as who’s taking care of the emotional part of your relationship too? Do you sometimes wish you weren’t so busy attending to other people‘s needs in your relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you may be engaging in the practice of mankeeping and would do well to read on.
Read more5 Cutting Edge Conflict Resolution Strategies
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Do you find that you and your partner just keep butting heads no matter what you seem to try? Do you wind up feeling totally frustrated at how you and your partner can't seem to get anywhere in resolving your differences? If you answer yes to either of these questions, then do read on for strategies that can help in your relationship.
Read moreHow Therapy Can Help the Dissociation Disconnection Effect
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Do you sometimes find yourself feeling cut off from others and the world? Do you sometimes just find that you “space out“ for no apparent reason? Do you ever feel sometimes like you’re not completely in your body for one reason or another? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then you experience some degree of dissociation and would do well to read further.
Read moreWhy An AI Girlfriend is a Mirage
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Do you sometimes think that an AI girlfriend would be the solution to your problems with loneliness? Do you feel that a Chatbot alternative to your current relationship will somehow magically make you happy? Do you tend to look to media or digital distractions to fill a void in your life? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then I urge you to read today’s offering.
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