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Do you find yourself blaming yourself if you’ve been a victim of sexual assault in the past? Did you ever experience blame from others for somehow experiencing a sexual assault? Do you walk around with a sense of shame and guilt for having gone through a sexual assault? If so, then you may suffer from victim-blaming and this week’s offering is for you.
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Do you find yourself sometimes feeling anxious and worried for no apparent reason? Do you have a history of childhood trauma, abuse, and/or neglect? Maybe you just didn’t feel like you could go to your parents for emotional support much or all of your childhood. If you identified positively with any of the above then there is definitely a connection between anxiety and trauma for you.
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Do you wonder if you’ve met the right person or not? Do you even know how to tell if who you’re with is right for you? Do you find you and your partner constantly getting into headbutting sessions over some fundamental issues? You may have a problem with basic compatibility, so read on.
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Do you find you spend money to alleviate your worries about the future? You may not even realize this is happening, but if you find you are dealing with large credit card bills despite being concerned about your financial situation or the world at large you may be engaging in doom spending. It’s not a new phenomenon, but it could be a sign of a deeper problem.
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Do you ever find yourself being “zoned out“ and then realize you weren’t paying attention to what was happening or what someone was saying at any given time? Do you ever find that you seem to be taken over by some part of you that you never consciously wanted to come out? if you answered yes to either of these questions, then you do experience some degree of dissociation, and this week’s blog post is for you.
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Are you someone who’s sometimes had a thought “I should be grateful for that,“ but that never seems to help? Have you had to endure so much emotional strife that gratitude seems like a far-off concept? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then this blog post is for you!
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Do you struggle with trauma and find it difficult to motivate yourself to be physically active? Do you often find yourself sitting ruminating or dwelling on past abuse or neglect and wonder why you can’t break the cycle? The answer may lie in finding physical activities that can help you engage your body to help heal your mind.
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Have you ever found yourself feeling like you hate your relationship partner? Have you found yourself ever acting in ways that seem to be totally counter to the way you want to show up in your relationship? If you do, then I encourage you to continue to read because this blog post May be very helpful for you.
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Do you ever find yourself talking to yourself harshly or berating yourself? Do you wish that you could stop this and be able to treat yourself with more kindness? If you do, then, this week's blog is just for you, so read on.
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Do you regularly feel like you freeze up or become inhibited before having to speak to a group? Do you find that you consistently avoid situations where you will have to speak or interact with a large group of people? If you answered yes to either one of these questions, you will probably find some information in this week’s blog that you can use.
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Do you suffer from syphilis and wonder why you got it? Have you heard about the recent rise in syphilis, and are concerned about what it reveals about our society? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then I urge you to read on.
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If you enjoyed watching the Barbie movie, and find it causes you to question your primary relationship, you’re not alone. Did you watch it and think that you were looking at some kind of upside down world? If you did, then you’re not alone either, but this movie does have positive implications for our partnered relationships going forward.
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Do you find yourself often worried about the future of our planet and humanity? Do you find yourself struggling with how to respond to the climate crisis that we are in right now, and don’t know which way to turn? This week’s blog will attempt to shed some light on the subject and is based on a new book I’m highlighting some points from in the space below.
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Do you often find yourself trying to give your relationship partner direct answers to questions, or seeking to ‘fix’ a problem that is presented for apparent resolution? If you do, you probably struggle with your listening skills, and active listening could be the best way to solve some of your relationship problems.
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If you’ve ever been a victim of abuse by a loved one, you may feel unable to break away from this individual. You may even try to tell yourself that you’re not being abused, or that it’s not even that bad. Regardless, you would do well to read this week's blog on the topic.
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Do you and your partner continually wind up butting heads over issues you know in your heart are really trivial? Do you feel stymied by continuing to have the same argument with your partner over and over again? Well, the answer can probably be found in Terry Real’s new book: Us, which deals with how to recover from relationship conflicts. I review this book in the space below.
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Do you often feel inhibited in social situations, and wonder where this came from? Do you remember having had a deep-seated sense of insecurity about yourself from an early age, but aren’t sure where this came from? Chances are there is some emotional mistreatment in your background, despite whether you feel like you had a normal childhood or not.
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Have you ever watched a movie or TV show that has trauma in it, and wondered if it’s something that only happens to people who were in the military or have experienced sexual assault? The truth is that many other people suffer from trauma, and it most often goes undetected. I’ll explain why in the space below.
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Much ado has been made about how we are a “divided“ country, and how people all over the nation are polarized about politics. You may find yourself anxious or worrying about these issues, but find there seems to be no way to deal with it in a healthy manner. I will try to offer some pointers on how to cope with the stress in this space.
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Do you find some times that you often feel splintered or at odds with yourself? Do you often feel like different people in different situations? If you answered, yes, to either of these two questions, then IFS probably has something to offer you.