Do you find you spend money to alleviate your worries about the future? You may not even realize this is happening, but if you find you are dealing with large credit card bills despite being concerned about your financial situation or the world at large you may be engaging in doom spending. It’s not a new phenomenon, but it could be a sign of a deeper problem.
Read moreThe Difficulty with Dissociation
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Do you ever find yourself being “zoned out“ and then realize you weren’t paying attention to what was happening or what someone was saying at any given time? Do you ever find that you seem to be taken over by some part of you that you never consciously wanted to come out? if you answered yes to either of these questions, then you do experience some degree of dissociation, and this week’s blog post is for you.
Read more5 Things That Interfere with Feeling Grateful
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Are you someone who’s sometimes had a thought “I should be grateful for that,“ but that never seems to help? Have you had to endure so much emotional strife that gratitude seems like a far-off concept? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then this blog post is for you!
Read more5 Physical Activities That Can Help Heal Trauma
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Do you struggle with trauma and find it difficult to motivate yourself to be physically active? Do you often find yourself sitting ruminating or dwelling on past abuse or neglect and wonder why you can’t break the cycle? The answer may lie in finding physical activities that can help you engage your body to help heal your mind.
Read moreThe Corrosiveness of Contempt in Relationships
Have you ever found yourself feeling like you hate your relationship partner? Have you found yourself ever acting in ways that seem to be totally counter to the way you want to show up in your relationship? If you do, then I encourage you to continue to read because this blog post May be very helpful for you.
Read moreThe Problem of Self-Loathing, and What To Do About It
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Do you ever find yourself talking to yourself harshly or berating yourself? Do you wish that you could stop this and be able to treat yourself with more kindness? If you do, then, this week's blog is just for you, so read on.
Read moreNeuroscience and the Root of Social Anxiety
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Do you regularly feel like you freeze up or become inhibited before having to speak to a group? Do you find that you consistently avoid situations where you will have to speak or interact with a large group of people? If you answered yes to either one of these questions, you will probably find some information in this week’s blog that you can use.
Read moreThe Rise of Syphilis and What It Says About Sex Addiction
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Do you suffer from syphilis and wonder why you got it? Have you heard about the recent rise in syphilis, and are concerned about what it reveals about our society? If you answered yes to either of these two questions, then I urge you to read on.
Read moreHow the Barbie Movie Can Be Good for Your Relationship
If you enjoyed watching the Barbie movie, and find it causes you to question your primary relationship, you’re not alone. Did you watch it and think that you were looking at some kind of upside down world? If you did, then you’re not alone either, but this movie does have positive implications for our partnered relationships going forward.
Read more5 Ways to Overcome Climate Anxiety Using Indigenous Wisdom
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Do you find yourself often worried about the future of our planet and humanity? Do you find yourself struggling with how to respond to the climate crisis that we are in right now, and don’t know which way to turn? This week’s blog will attempt to shed some light on the subject and is based on a new book I’m highlighting some points from in the space below.
Read moreHow Active Listening Can Improve Your Relationship
Do you often find yourself trying to give your relationship partner direct answers to questions, or seeking to ‘fix’ a problem that is presented for apparent resolution? If you do, you probably struggle with your listening skills, and active listening could be the best way to solve some of your relationship problems.
Read moreThree Signs You’re Tied Up in a Trauma Bond
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If you’ve ever been a victim of abuse by a loved one, you may feel unable to break away from this individual. You may even try to tell yourself that you’re not being abused, or that it’s not even that bad. Regardless, you would do well to read this week's blog on the topic.
Read moreRelationship Conflict and the New Relational Life Therapy
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Do you and your partner continually wind up butting heads over issues you know in your heart are really trivial? Do you feel stymied by continuing to have the same argument with your partner over and over again? Well, the answer can probably be found in Terry Real’s new book: Us, which deals with how to recover from relationship conflicts. I review this book in the space below.
How Emotional Mistreatment in Childhood Can Lead to Social Anxiety
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Do you often feel inhibited in social situations, and wonder where this came from? Do you remember having had a deep-seated sense of insecurity about yourself from an early age, but aren’t sure where this came from? Chances are there is some emotional mistreatment in your background, despite whether you feel like you had a normal childhood or not.
Read moreWhat Hollywood Gets Wrong About Trauma
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Have you ever watched a movie or TV show that has trauma in it, and wondered if it’s something that only happens to people who were in the military or have experienced sexual assault? The truth is that many other people suffer from trauma, and it most often goes undetected. I’ll explain why in the space below.
Read more5 Ways to Cope with Stress of an Increasing Political Divide
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Much ado has been made about how we are a “divided“ country, and how people all over the nation are polarized about politics. You may find yourself anxious or worrying about these issues, but find there seems to be no way to deal with it in a healthy manner. I will try to offer some pointers on how to cope with the stress in this space.
IFS and How It Can Help You Feel More Whole
Do you find some times that you often feel splintered or at odds with yourself? Do you often feel like different people in different situations? If you answered, yes, to either of these two questions, then IFS probably has something to offer you.
Is Polyamory Right for You and Your Relationship?
Have you ever wondered whether polyamory might be good for you, particularly in the context of an ongoing relationship? Have you felt that at times being able to focus your love and affection on more than one partner would be beneficial for you? I will try to answer these questions in this week's blog post, so read on.
Read moreGabor Mate Debunks Normality
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Have you tended to compare yourself negatively to others because of a traumatic childhood or other aspects of yourself you view negatively? Do you ever wonder who the ‘normal’ people are in the world you are supposed to be more like? I have some good news for you if you answered ‘yes’ to either of these questions and I also review Gabor Mate’s new book, The Myth of Normal below.
Read moreThe Millennial Brain and Mental Health
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Are you a millennial and wonder why older folks tend to think so differently than you? Have you felt like you don’t fit in sometimes when you are in a work situation and your boss is somehow expecting you to grind away for long hours or be a climber in the workplace when you don’t necessarily buy into the corporate culture?
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